The culture of the stories arise from the real life. Stories and metaphoras are often used as imagines of the common surroundings; they're easier to handle than private experiences. Through experiencing the story as private happening awakes the story and connects it to the wider social network. Private experience and connection gives energy to the fairytale - and these connections feed the beasts too.
People are afraid of receiving money and other abundance levels, because wealth means, that the hiding from emotions is due to end. One faces all of the emotional level problems, because there's nowhere (work or hard homework) to hide the tantrum that emotions bring. Emotions are based in many levels to the highest forms of human communication; it affects our body language, health level, verbal communication, heart-level bloodspread territory and it brings a lot to our spiritual field too. These territories people tend to "defend to the death" and many don't have a slightest clue of their true feelings, therefore they have no idea what they're dying for. People are so clever at cheating themselves about their true feelings and where they rise from. Some have base in the karmic relations, some of them are based to this life.
However, abundance levels are about to rise all over the world and there is a good reason for it. Because it's now the time of the Child, Aquarius, creativity; people need to understand the emotional and feeling levels their creation is based on. People need to learn their feelings upside down, name the good and bad emotions; especially those mixed emotion balls that are so hard to swallow, when given messages are crossed and one can't figure in a situation what the hell this was all about. Otherways the creation becomes as twisted as the emotional ball is there behind the creation..
So, it's storytime. When a child is born, it's not always a happy thing. Child is often cheered, but in many occasions, also mourned or hated. A child brings up the question of uncontrolled future. Child is a threat, because one must face the bite of the time; getting older and sometimes wiser, but loosing power, sex appeal and the shifts in focus of life make people shake. A child has the whole 100% potential turn the life what ever the one decides to; these unlimited chances bring up the question, why on earth have the parents or grandparents left their lives unlived the way they wanted? Why did my child choose this or that spouse and not the one I would have wanted for him/her? A child can break the rules and force to change with all it's might everything that one has build up with hard work. Especially when the children, when growing, show up their own true nature and strong will or determination to live their own lives and not continuing to build up other's dreams, it's hard to face the fact that same wood doesn't always mean the same kind of tree.
Many people are jealous of the children, because they can't see kids as kids. They face children as true competitors in marriage. This base is in many stories, where there are children left to forest; the bad witch isn't as bad as the parents that took the kids to the forest in the first place. Child pulls the strings that people need to face; being needy (and if one never has had a chance for that); emotional as screaming, crying and laughing uncontrolled in their mood swings (and one never had that chance either); scared (there are lots of things adults can feel and never admit because of the defacement); shameful (kids have no control what can be said or done); and hot tempered (anger is one of the most difficult issue to admit). Grandparents can face these issues often easier than the parents, because they don't have to be with the kids all the time. Often time gives some mercy and they can through grandchildren live their stories of life in a different way. Also giving up the responsibilities gives some room to play inspirationally instead of teaching the roles to play.
Sometimes the grandchild brings up the unfaced family tragedies in a way that the family is shaken up totally. New mates bring new culture and observation to the family and all herendous, well forgotten secrets arise. Competition of "who's the best dad" or "who's the best mum" around arises from the happenings, that were so mixed and hard at the time to manage. If there's someone to blame as "worst parent ever" in the game, it raises a question, why there is a reason to throw the stones? What's the issue behind it? Why there are so much of rules and standards to follow, what secrets need to be locked behind the scenes of "good behaviour"? The new sons and daughters in-law are thrown a challenge "handle it better if you can" and in the same time there is network of sisters and brothers in-law to dig holes deep enough to make newbies fall in them - and hurt bad. Why does the blood-nest need to be covered and made the newbies, and grandchildren too, as monsters?
Another trick is to kick the newbie from the nest and (at least try to) "steal" the kids in energetic levels for numerous reasons. At first; bloodspread need to act certain way. Certain habits need to be protected. Or the golden memories need to be protected and if the newbie realized what there has sometimes happened, the word might spread and of course the golden time would become not so golden anymore. Also the nest, the physical building or nest as a social network can be so stiff, that newbies aren't welcomed, because there isn't room for anything that could change the course or change the nest in some way. These issues might be such as rolemodels as woman, mother, man or father. "The way we are", is the issue.
Mothers as threat in nest is a great taboo. Female anger is witnessed in many stories as beautiful but vicious queens or child-eating witches. In the sotries "the good mum" has died and step-mother steps in the picture, and that's where the hell begins. These roles live up well in the mothers too. It's not nice thing to admit, but females tend to torture their offspring more than men tend to straightly kill them, when they feel their children as threats. The question is, why do the adults all might, big enough to do anything to smaller creatures, feel the children as threats? The deep reggressions, other more important issues than a child and deep unfulfilled needs are the answer.
There is the question of woman's role. Is woman anything else despite the role of the mother? Or a nun? For many centuries there were only limited ways to be a woman at least in Europe. Servants, slaves, cooks. Being economically independent, sexually free and not ruled by tight community has been possible only for few decades. No wonder the ancient subconsious level ideas of "good mom" and "good woman" have ruled and haunted female. The islamic world carries also the same cultural heritage through jewish tradition from Egypt. Women goddessess are worshipped as mothers, superstitious power holders, queens, soldiers, healers and sisters. There are lots of mythic furious and enraged roles too. Women guard their traditions from the prehistoric dawn of non-written culture; time was quite different then and in between. If woman is seen only through the lense of "usefulness", "unfortunate necessity" and "uncontrolled emotional threat to male reason", it must be reflection how female have faced men in the time of Women. The revenge of the revenge can be ended now.
Emotional richness hasn't had much room, when survival has been necessity. Neither the negative or positive feelings haven't been welcomed. Feelings are shushed away, burdened and walked over. The madness of reality has been out of reach of any reason. Looking back centureis of HIStory; there has been war after another, crazy queens and kings after another, changes of forced religion shifts and robbery of cultures and economics in all over the world. Seeing it all; rapes, forced marriages, epidemic diseases and loss of humanity in every range it's no wonder that humans have been in the same swamp for centuries. Women have lost their pride of their body, they've lost amounts of babies and their strength, control over anything, as forced to under male feet. Women have had power over two directions; other females around, and their children.
Sudden power differs from the built power. Women have build up a system how to survive in the limited surroundings under male control. It's the passive-aggressive victimized way, role play who's doing good and bad, who's better than another. If stone is thrown, the best way to manage it is to throw it to another - and at least for a second, feel a little bit better and succeeded. A child brings a sudden power. Surviving in the "who's best mom" and "who's best woman" -competition is a matter of built power. Any attempt to break it down means, that woman looses her "womanhood" titles and is "transofrmed" to male camp, and becomes betrayal. These outlaws can be stoned any time and becoming "bad mother" or "bad woman" is the worst accusation ever. That brings also fear, because culture has been built to the straight roles of females and males. Gender roles as "outlaws" are threats for everybody. Feeling threatened and fearing everything that moves forces everybody to bite and attack anything and everything - despite the need or not.
Human woman's ability to enjoy about the children's pain and struggle is wierd, if compared to animal kingdom. Females can dump their kids if they smell off or reject them, but rarely walk after them beating them viciously. Human of course feels a victim of the situation, victim of the wrong marriage, victim of a drug or alcohol abuse, victim of her own parents and victim of twisted social or work culture - but why to continue life like that? Why to be the vicious queen, why not simply search another queendom, where everything IS perfect, instead of beating the children up in so many words or physically?
Females could unite their power and create strong connections in order to protect their offspring, like cows and elephants do. Instead of that, human females have spread their power in useless fighting over social managing and they're mainly fighting each other, not outer structures, laws or male power. And if some kind of uniting has happened the twist has been taken to the direction that was the cause of it all; the male has been totally dismissed, feeding those beasts who get fed by the victim energies. Why not simply concentrate on building safe nests for kids? How different aspects of being male and female could serve the nesting? Why to create the families and extended families into warholes instead of safe newtwork of kins? People don't simply now how it feels to be safe at home, feel safe at themselves, no threat to nobody at all.
Men as threat in nest has been obvious because of their physical power and during earlier centuries because of their socially higher status. Nowadays the situation isn't as obvious, therefore men using their brutality and fists aren't so cool anymore. Many women use this argument against them anyway. Often the obvious threat is mother-in-law or sister-in-law working behind the scene, home brought lover, addiction or addiction over working and avoiding the family life. Male have passive ways to tell they're not interested of family life anymore and for many women it's just easier to whine about the issue than kick the man out. The need of family structure, the need of status are more important than is the family safe nest for children or not.
The past centuries have been different for women. If adult finds out the family isn't good, one can leave the nest and wider the nest in a way that there are extended network of families, where children are educated different way in every nest. That lowers the threats in nest. The only one's who can't walk away like that, are the children who can't do the decision, because of their limited abilities to survive. Running away from the family can end up being pimped around, especially in the America this is huge problem. I think it's the responsibility of the adults to base from the beginning that kind of families, where the feeling is loving and sympathetic in the first place. People can't always choose, because the future is secret, with whom the kids need to be made. On the other hand, when troubles arise or other Souls Contractions call, people can choose to hndle the matters nicely without heavy judging and using nonverbal, unconcsious levels of protecting the nest.
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